Letterboxd: We Set Up Our Accounts and Picked Our Favorite Films

We’re all rookies on the Letterboxd site, but it seems to be a social networking website and app for movies. It reminds me of Goodreads but for films. We all chose our four favorite movies, found some people to follow, discovered some new movies, and looked for one more thing to do on the site. 

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Here’s a few things I learned about Letterboxd: 

  1. Headquarters are in Auckland, New Zealand
  2. Started in Oct of 2011, so that’s over 15 years ago 
  3. Over 30 million users 
  4. Some notable account users from Wikipedia: Martin Scorsese, Charli XCX, Ed Sheeran, Francis Ford Coppola, and Michael Mann
  5. From Wikipedia: The “Four Favorites” feature, which allows members to pin four films to the top of their profile, has become a prominent element of film publicity. Letterboxd’s editorial team conducts red carpet and junket interviews in which filmmakers, actors, and celebrities are asked to name their four favorite films.

We’re going to start by trying to guess each other’s four favorite films. Anne, what do you say we try and guess Izzy’s first? 

  • My Izzy guesses: Sing Street, Beautiful Boy, Notting Hill, Moonrise Kingdom 
Movie poster for 'Waves' featuring a couple on a beach.
Izzy’s Favorite Films
  • My Anne guesses: 2001 A Space Odyssey, Bridesmaids, Best in Show, The Dark Knight 
Movie poster for The English Patient featuring a woman and a man.
Anne’s Favorite Films
A collage of four movie posters under the title 'Favorite Films', including 'My Name Is Earl', 'Moneyball', 'No Country for Old Men', and 'Dead Poets Society'.
Bill’s Favorite Films

What films were tough for me to leave out? 

  1. Hoosiers. I worried it was too on the nose? 
  2. Pulp Fiction. Seems stereotypical. 
  3. Good Will Hunting 
  4. Sinners 
  5. The Royal Tenenbaums 
  6. Edge of Tomorrow with Tom Cruise and Emily Blunt 

There’s an ability to communicate with movie posters sort of like some people do with emojis. I like a movie podcast called The Big Picture and one of its hosts, Sean Fennessy, signaled his distaste for the show’s new partnership with Netflix with this post:  

A collage of four movie posters, titled 'Sean's Letterboxd Favorites as the Ringer moves to Netflix'. The posters feature the titles 'Whore', 'Capital', '$$$', and 'Salesman'.
Fennessey appears to express his displeasure about The Big Picture’s Netflix Relationship

I didn’t know the $$$ film. I think it is this:

  • $, also known as Dollar$, Dollars or $ (Dollars), and in the UK as The Heist, is a 1971 American heist comedy film starring Warren Beatty and Goldie Hawn

Find some people to follow. You can search names. You can find people who wrote about movies that interest you. Who did you follow? 

  • Sean Fennessey. He has To Die For, Something weird’s on the air, Bamboozled, and Magnolia on his page. 
  • Patrick Willems. I discovered him through his review of Air. I noticed he is followed by Sean. 

Figure out a way to discover a few movies you never heard of that look good. 

  1. Find at least one “recent story” and read or watch it. Tell us about it. 
  • I read a short article titled “Ben Affleck Knew He Had to Direct Animals.” Oh, it’s a summary of an article. 
  • From the summary: The film follows Los Angeles mayoral candidate Mark Kimball (Affleck), whose campaign is upended when he and his wife Abigail (Kerry Washington) get a late-night phone call from a man claiming to have kidnapped his son.
  • It links me to something called Tudum. It’s the script of an interview. 
  • Affleck said this in the article about Los Angeles: I wanted to make a story that is really true to all of the disparate aspects of this city. It’s like a mosaic. If you’re on one of the tiles, it looks like that tile, but it’s adjacent to something that’s different from it, whether it’s socioeconomically, ethnically, culturally, or linguistically. This is a city where at least as many people speak Spanish as speak English. The movie moves into Spanish-language storytelling, not because it’s a Spanish story or an English story, but because those languages exist in LA, often side by side.
  1. Do one more thing on Letterboxd. Tell us what you did. 
  • I added Salesman to my watchlist. (it had a “play” button next to it on my list and took me right to our HBO account to watch)
  • I downloaded the app and hope to keep adding films to my watchlist and I hear about them. 
  • Reviewed Blackberry. 

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7 Movies to Watch, The Menu, East of Eden, Rotten Tomatoes, an SNL Report, and the Colts in London

If you sit down to watch a movie, but you don’t know what you’re going to watch, how do you figure it out? In this post we look for a new process, identify 7 movies worth watching, discuss East of Eden, the yogurt shop murders, the Colts in London, an SNL report, and Izzy’s upcoming West Coast Road Trip!

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Bill Torg’s Topics for Discussion 

When you want to watch a movie but don’t know what you’re going to watch, how do you find one? 

  • Frustration of trying to click around on the platforms we subscribe to: Netflix, HBO, Apple, Amazon (Fandango) 
  • What reviews, if any, do you take into account when picking? Amazon stars from those who watch and the Tomatometer / Popcornmeter on Rotten Tomatoes. 
  • For the first time, I used the Rotten Tomatoes “watch at home” page where I could toggle to the platform (Netflix, Prime, HBOMax, etc) and look at ratings that way. Click here for that page. 
  • Should I try Letterboxd? They talk about it on The Big Picture podcast. Looks like a sort of Goodreads for movies. I think we could explore it for next time. Click here to access Letterboxd. 

We narrowed it down to these seven movies to watch:

Squid and The Whale on Netflix 

  • From RT: A pair of brothers living in Brooklyn are caught in the middle of, and deeply affected by, the divorce of their erudite parents, Bernard (Jeff Daniels) and Joan Berkman (Laura Linney). Older sibling Walt (Jesse Eisenberg) sides with dad and acts out at school, while younger brother Frank (Owen Kline) quietly backs up mom. The household tension rises further when Joan’s writing career takes off and surpasses the failed ambitions of her professor ex-husband.
  • Directed by Noah Baumbach. One of the producers is Wes Anderson. Baumbach is 57. Was married to Jennifer Jason Leigh and now married to Greta Gerwig. Co wrote Barbie screenplay. White Noise. 

The Menu on Netflix. 

  • From RT: A couple (Anya Taylor-Joy and Nicholas Hoult) travels to a coastal island to eat at an exclusive restaurant where the chef (Ralph Fiennes) has prepared a lavish menu, with some shocking surprises.
  • Also starred John Leguizamo and Hong Chau 
  • Directed by Mark Mylod. He’s done episodes of Entourage, Game of Thrones 
  • One of the producers was Will Ferrell. 

The Invite (coming soon) on HBO 

  • From RT: Joe and Angela’s marriage is on thin ice. When they invite their enigmatic upstairs neighbors for a dinner party, the night spirals into unexpected places. Have they reignited the spark or the lit the match that burns it all down?
  • Stars Olivia Wilde, Seth Rogen, Penelope Cruz, and Edward Norton 
  • Directed by Olivia Wilde 

End of Oak Street (rental on Amazon) 

  • From RT: After a mysterious cosmic event rips Oak Street from suburbia and transports their neighborhood to someplace unknown, the Platt family soon discovers that their very survival depends on them sticking together as they navigate their now unrecognizable surroundings.
  • Starring Anne Hathaway, Ewan McGregor
  • Directed by David Robert Mitchell (also It Follows) 

Obsession (rental on Amazon)  

  • From RT: After breaking the mysterious “One Wish Willow” to win his crush’s heart, a hopeless romantic finds himself getting exactly what he asked for but soon discovers that some desires come at a dark, sinister price.
  • Starring Michael Johnston, Inde Navarrette, Cooper Tomlinson
  • Directed by Curry Barker (YouTube channel “that’s a bad idea” 1.62 million) 27 years old

Blackberry on Netflix

  • ‘BlackBerry’ tells the story of Mike Lazaridis and Jim Balsillie, the two men that charted the course of the spectacular rise and catastrophic demise of the world’s first smartphone.
  • Starring Jay Baruchel, Glenn Howerton, rich Sommer
  • Directed by Matt Johnson. He’s Canadian, MFA from York University, started in independent docufiction. Did Nirvanna the Band the Show. 
  • Izzy, how aware are you of an MFA in filmmaking or screenwriting are you after Utah? 

X on HBO. 

  • From RT: In 1979, a group of young filmmakers set out to make an adult film in rural Texas, but when their reclusive, elderly hosts catch them in the act, the cast find themselves fighting for their lives.
  • Starring Mia Goth, Jenna Ortega, Martin Henderson, Brittany Snow 
  • Directed by Ti West. Drinking Buddies, The ABCs of Death and his movie MaXXXine gets tomato numbers in the 70s. 

Megan picked The Menu. We recommend it. Why? 

  • Very unusual: we get a menu that is an outline that the film follows. We get the ingredients on the screen which is sometimes crass and funny. 
  • It is in the spirit of Agatha Christie’s And Then There Were None, Passenger 10, The Knives Out movies. Suspenseful. Pretty gory but not over the top. 
  • Satire of foodies, critics of all kinds, and the ultra rich. 

Honorable Mention Stuff to Read or Watch: 

  • Ted Lasso Season 4, Episode 9 was the best of the season. Heart wrenching with Mae and tribute to Anthony Head. Roy and Keeley! Roy’s reenactment of the game. Finally know why Tracey Ullman is on the show. 
  • Fever’s season ends: Mitchell and Clark couldn’t make enough of their threes / finishes. Wilson and Gray make more mid range tough jumpers than Fever can hit threes. They get calls but they also are attacking the rim and defender more. A’ja Wilson really bothers everyone around the rim. (the league is tough, Clark can get better, not sure of the ceiling of this team, parity) 
  • NoDa and Camp North End in Charlotte. Tipsy Pickle. Cabo Fish Taco. Vintage stores. Hardy Boys Records. 

Anne’s Discussion Topics

“East of Eden” on Netflix 

  • Florence Pugh, Christopher Abbott. Showrunner/writer Zoe Kazan, granddaughter to movie director Elia Kazan
  • Florence was great. Most characters are hard to like or at least very frustrating. Have you read John Steinbeck book? I’ve read zero books by him.
  • Secrets, parents expectations, fate, making your own choices, “thou mayest”, tell your kids the truth!
  • From the book preface: East of Eden hit the bookstores in midsummer of 1952. The 602-page novel sold for $4.50. By November it had become the nation’s number-one best-seller. A limited edition of 750 copies had been distributed to “important reviewers” and was followed by a run of 110,000, what Steinbeck called “one hell of a big first edition.”
  • The opening two paragraphs of the novel: The Salinas Valley is in Northern California. It is a long narrow swale between two ranges of mountains, and the Salinas River winds and twists up the center until it falls at last into Monterey Bay. I remember my childhood names for grasses and secret flowers. I remember where a toad may live and what time the birds awaken in the summer—and what trees and seasons smelled like—how people looked and walked and smelled even. The memory of 
  • odors is very rich.
  • East of Eden
  • Click here for the novel on Amazon. We are an Amazon affiliate. 

“He Was a Suspect in the Yogurt Shop Murders for Thirty Years. He Can’t Forget” by Michael Hall in Texas Monthly

  • Forrest Welborn was a suspect as his best friend implicated him in a confession. Later DNA revealed the real killer.
  • Pressured confessions…need actual evidence, pressure to solve murders, public outcry
  • Would you stick around in the area you live if this happened to you? Google your name and you are always linked.
  • He Was A Suspect…

Izzy’s Discussion Topics 

  • Izzy is going on a West coast road trip! Stops: Oregon Coast, Redwood National Park and San Francisco!
  • Working on my film! It is “due” Monday so today will be spent all on that. 
  • Recent SNL update: Dakota Johnson hosted, James and I fell asleep. She threw shade at my man Role Model. “Bad in bed” and “lame breakups.” Taylor came on. Next week: Shane Gillis with musical guest Rosalia. 
  • Upcoming concerts: Hey, Nothing, Big Thief and maybe Malcom Todd. I recommend End of Oak Street. A family is mysteriously transported with their entire neighborhood to an unknown, dangerous world. They must stick together and uncover what happened while fighting to survive.

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Short Film Production, Scheming Artificial Intelligence, and The Secret History of Gold

Welcome to the Torg Stories Podcast. We’re recording Sunday, September 27, 2026. Topics for this episode include Izzy’s first day of shooting on her short film, AI Models that scheme, the Hulu show Adults, Apple’s The Gorge, an SNL report, and Anne finished her history of Gold book. It’s also a big NFL today and the WNBA playoffs kick off. Anne, you’re in Boone, North Carolina! 

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Bill Torg’s Topics for Discussion 

  1. “AI Models That Lie, Cheat and Plot Murder: Just How Risky are LLMS?” by Matthew Hutson published in Nature on October 9, 2025
  • In my classes at App State. We work a lot with peer-reviewed journals. I have never felt more like what’s in there is old. 2025 is a long time ago when it comes to AI. 
  • Are either of you familiar with that term, “LLM”? 
  • An LLM is an AI system trained on enormous amounts of text. This article calls LLMS “the brains behind the chatbots.” 
  • From the article: “Whatever the level of selfhood among LLMs, researchers think it’s urgent to understand scheming like behaviours before these models pose much more dire risks.” I hadn’t heard the word “scheming” applied to AIs before. 
  • Quote: Some LLMs are “agentic” – they are granted access to extra software tools that can take actions, such as surfing the web, modifying files or running code. 
  • Agentic meaning the AI works toward a goal rather than just responding to prompts. A goal such as making the business or US businesses profitable. 
  • Scheming example in tests: AI acted in alignment with the user’s goal during supposed evaluation, but in alignment with their original goal during supposed deployment. (a phenomena known as alignment faking) 
  1. “WNBA Playoffs 2026: How all eight teams could win the title” by Michael Voepel on ESPN. 
  1. The Minnesota Lynx are the big favorite to win the title. They were good already and now they Notre Dame then TCU’s Olivia Miles. 
  2. All teams playing today. Let’s go over the game real quick: 
  •  Liberty with a bunch of well known players including Stewart and Ionescu at the Lynx with Collier and Miles at 2PM. 
  •  Fever with Clark, Mitchell and Boston at Aces with A’ja Wilson at 4PM. Boston is questionable with right lower leg injury. 
  • Mystics with Notre Dame’s Sonia Citron, Shakira Austin, and Va Tech’s Georgia Amoore at the Dream with Rhyne Howard and Angel Reese at 7PM. 
  • Wings with Bueckers and Arike Ogunbowale vs. the Valkyries with Gabby Williams and Kiah Stokes. I don’t know the Valkyries players and I will continue not to see them much because this game is on too late. 
  • Click here for article. 
  1. The Gorge movie on Apple TV starring Miles Teller, Anya Taylor-Joy and Sigourney Weaver 
  1. Best part is mystery of what is in the gorge. 
  2. Shot in Norway. Stunning scenery. 
  3. Rough middle where everything is dark and the main characters are trying to get out of the gorge. 
  4. Satisfying ending with pretty good twist. Felt a little like Bourne movie endings, which I really like.  

Anne Torg’s Topics for Discussion 

  1. “Adults” – Hulu show Izzy asked us to watch 
  • I liked how it points out the the generation’s tendency of taking political correctness too far, they focused on this in the 2nd episode
  • 3rd episode is too contrived to me – colonoscopy 
  • Actors are good
  1. The Secret History of Gold by Dominic Frisby
  • “No other substance is as long-lasting as gold – not diamonds, not tungsten carbide, not boron nitride. Gold does not corrode; it does not tarnish or decay; it does not break down over time. This sets it apart from every other substance. Iron rusts, wood rots, silver tarnishes.”
  • Do you ever see yourself buying a gold coin or bar? 
  • Click here for Amazon link to the book. 
  1. “I used to get paid to hang out with famous people” by Jonah Winer
  1. I Used to Get Paid to Hang Out  with Famous People
  2. Are profiles dead? Do you like reading profiles? Do you prefer videos or podcasts?
  3. Contract w/Rolling Stone for $90K in 90s not bad.
  4. Lived in Kimmels house for 3 days, thats crazy
  5. Reminds me of Cameron Crowe spending everyday with David Bowie. Travelling with bands. 
  6. Really long profile on Fever Coach Stephanie White on ESPN this week. Click here for article. 

Izzy Torg’s Topics for Discussion 

  • SNL first episode 
  • Grace Reiter new cast member. She in my opinion had the best first episode of anyone. She did a Katsye music video and looked so comfortable. Also Jalen is a very good actor. 

Adults TV show 

  1. I love this show. It’s so fun and the acting feels so natural. I aspire to have a silly friend group like this. 
  2. Ask about Anne and bill college friend group. 
  3. Talk about mine 

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SNL Lorne-isms, Tom Cruise’s Big Week, and Izzy Reports on the Role Model Concert

This week on the Torg Stories Podcast, we’ve got some SNL Lorne-isms, Tom Cruise had a big week, Anne and I both saw the film The Whisper Man, and Izzy gives a report from the Role Model concert. 

Stories Bill Read or Watched: 

  1. SNL Lorne Michaels biography. Here are some work. I’m doing interesting work how do other people feel you know his answer is just didn’t reveal a lot. Did you happen to read it to but golden lines: 
  • Remember Podunk! You’ve got audience in all fifty states.
  • The quickest way to kill off somebody talented is to let him do everything he wants. 
  • Cocaine is God’s way of telling you you have too much money. 
  • One of the unusual things about SNL is that the writers are in charge of producing their own pieces. 
  • When there are too many things going on in a scene, he says, “You’re putting a hat on a hat.” (Another term for this is premise overload). 
  • When the details are accurate, your brain goes, “Somebody’s taken care of this.” 
  • “Do it in sunshine,” which means, don’t forget that comedy is an entertainment. Colors should be bright, costumes flattering.
  • Michaels dropped in and out, and at one session he made a plea: “Please don’t use cocaine. It doesn’t make you funnier. It only makes you think you’re funnier.”
  • It’s a 672 page paperback. I just made it to the 50% mark. 
  1. The 2026 Emmys! 
  • A fun freshman show, the Apple TV horror-comedy “Widow’s Bay,” nearly ran the table on the comedy side.
  • Matthew Rhys (Rees) is a beast after all. Rhys made history on Monday by becoming the first person to win two lead acting Emmys in one night. He took home prizes for the Netflix crime thriller mini-series “The Beast in Me” and the Apple TV horror-comedy hit “Widow’s Bay.”
  • But Parton also received her own dedicated tribute from Reba McEntire, another beloved country music superstar, who shared a decades-long friendship with Parton in which they sometimes sang and acted together. McEntire performed one of Parton’s songs, “Appalachian Memories,” a ballad about the region’s cultural heritage.
  • Click here for NY Times article. 

Anne’s Read or Watched This Week: 

  1. “Tom Cruise: Hollywood’s Most Elusive Star Speaks” by Zach Baron Interview in GQ
  • Tom Cruise Interview
  • Interesting how he answers questions – he kind of ignores it and answers it by saying he loves working with people and figuring out how to make the best movie.
  • Talks a lot about having personal goals and challenging
  • When asked if he fears death in regards to doing stunts like in MI films:   “But here’s the thing: How do we use these tools to create an emotional effect on an audience? And is it communicating what we want to communicate? So do I fear death? No. I don’t. It’s not like I’m not afraid. I don’t mind the feeling. I understand life has certainties and uncertainties. And in making movies and living life, what interests me is: Let’s move the uncertainties more into the certainties, but I want to create other uncertainties, so that we’re moving forward and it’s part of the adventure of it.” Are you ever afraid onscreen or off? TC: There’s stuff where you want to feel that. You want to feel that uncertainty. But I’m not afraid to feel afraid. I don’t know how else to say it. I’m not afraid to go, “Okay, I know this is a leap and let’s take the jump. Let’s go.” And I try to recognize things that I don’t know, and I don’t pretend to know things that I know and things that I don’t know. So that’s how I feel about it. Are you afraid of death? Are you afraid to be afraid?
  • A Cruise line that makes me think of Izzy: “I mean, these guys that are painting backgrounds and building the sets and moving the cameras, lighting, every area of making a movie—it’s light, architecture, the design, all of it, to entertain audiences,”
  1. The Death of Trotsky by Josh Ireland
  • The Death of Trotsky
  • Interesting, easy to read. Gives some nice insight to Trotsky/Stalin plus the guy (Ramon Mercader agent for NKVD) who ultimately killed Trotsky with an ice pick. Plus some Frida Kahlo and Diego Revera mentions.
  • How far will you go for your beliefs? Political or otherwise. Most of us think it is wrong to murder, but some people have such strong belief in the moral rightness they will do anything.
  • Good exchange illuminating Stalin that Kamenev related, the group is day drinking and talking with each other (all communist party leaders), answering the question “What is the finest thing in the world?”
    • Kamenev: “Books”
    • Radek: “A woman, your woman”
    • Rykov: “Cognac”
    • Stalin: “The greatest delight is to mark one’s enemy, prepare everything, avenge oneself thoroughly, and then go to sleep.”
  1. The Whisper Man on Netflix directed by James Ashcroft
  • Starring Robert De Niro
  • The Whisper Man
  • Avg movie, did creep me out
  • Never live in a big old house with creepy open windows and mail slots in the door

Izzy Podcast Agenda and Notes 

  1. Role model concert 
  • He did not play the Wedding which is very important 
  • He is just as amazing and beautiful in person 
  1. Watched the film Obsession finally
  • It was made so so well for the budget of 740,000 and on a 20 day schedule. Did not like the story line, thought writing got weird at the end. 
  1. Started watching Gilmore Girls for the 7th time because fall has begun. 
  • Talk about Rory’s boyfriend controversy 
  • I have no alone time at school but I create moments to watch now 

Honorable Mention

  • learned that the secret lives of Mormon wives are a big deal and people in Utah see them around with other men and gossip about it 

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The Decision to Bring Dad Home

The first time Dad left the Margate Rehabilitation Facility in West Jefferson, NC was to get his staples out at the orthopedic office. The plan was staff from Margate would get him to the office and mom and I would meet him there. Mom and I arrived at the office before dad. The waiting room was pretty large–it probably seated around forty people–and it was L-shaped so that when you went up to the window where people were being checked in, it was hard to see the whole room. I went to the window to talk to the receptionist about how patients usually arrived from skilled nursing facilities. The nurse said sometimes there were multiple drop offs for the bus driver to make at different locations and they could work Dad in even if he got there late.

I went back to sit with mom and a few minutes passed. I absentmindedly scanned the room and saw Dad sitting in a wheelchair near the door. His face was blank as he stared ahead. I’m sure he didn’t know where he was or what he was doing here, and I thought about Dad’s life. These days, he mostly lay in bed. It used to be he’d watch any basketball game that was on, and he’d watch a lot of cable news including Fox and CNN. He stopped watching sports first; he just couldn’t follow what was going on anymore. Dad had coached sports his whole working life–including basketball, baseball, and golf–but now sports on television didn’t hold his interest. For nearly ten years, watching the news had really riled him up, and I’d say hadn’t been very healthy for him. He worried about my sister living in LA. He worried about terrorists taking out the power grid. He worried the banks would be unable to function or that the grocery stores would cease to have food. Of course all of these things could happen, and it’s probably not a bad idea to prepare by degree for those contingencies, but Dad was in his eighties with advanced Parkinson’s, and I wished for him that he could have let all of that go. If I’m blessed enough to make it to eighty, we’ll see what I pay attention to.

I thought maybe one reason that Dad stopped watching sports and the news was that he couldn’t see very well. As a part of Parkinson’s, his eyes were really sensitive to light. One day at Margate, I turned on Dad’s television. “Wolf Blitzer,” Dad cried out, as if seeing an old friend. Dad’s life was mostly something that happened to him–as opposed to his making choices to make things happen. Dad lay in bed. Food arrived. People came to change his diaper. People came to give him a sponge bath or a haircut or to shave him. Two big dudes came to take him down the hall to, as he said about his therapy, rough him up. 

I walked over to Dad at the orthopedic office. “Well hello, Dad!” I said. 

“Bill!” Dad exclaimed with surprise. “Boy am I glad to see you.” I wondered if anyone told him why he was here, and if they had, if he had been able to understand them. I explained he was going to get his stitches out from his hip surgery. When it was Dad’s turn to go back to an examination room, Mom, Dad, and I all crammed into a little room with a nurse. Dad was taken away for an x-ray and eventually we were told that his hip looked good. The staple removal was tough for a couple of reasons. We had to get Dad’s pants down, and I had to hold him at a certain angle for the doctor–or maybe she was a physician’s assistant or a nurse practitioner–to clip the staples and pull them out. “It might feel like a bee sting,” she said as she worked her way through the staples. She had some trouble with several of them. Dad groaned as she took some of them out. 

Through no fault of the staff or conditions at the skilled nursing facility, I could see Dad give up while he was there. I tried to show Dad how to work the television remote and the buttons on the side of his bed, but he didn’t show any interest. Maybe he couldn’t comprehend any longer how those things worked, or maybe he just wanted to sit halfway up and stare at the wall in front of him. He had what seemed like daily hallucinations to me in which he’d think he was talking to one of his golf buddies or coaching a basketball game from decades before. His enthusiasm for my visits began to wane too. “Hey Bill,” he’d say when I’d walk into his room. Then, he’d just go back to staring ahead at the wall. Even though insurance would pay for dad to stay longer, I thought it might be time for him to come home. 

The main pro of having Dad at the facility was that mom was able to get a pretty good night’s sleep and the staff at the facility changed dad and kept him clean. It was summer, I wasn’t teaching a class, and the high school basketball team I coached wasn’t playing games. For now, I’d be able to be around the house most of the time. The cons of keeping him in the facility were that dad didn’t want to be there and the forty-five minute drive each way that mom had been doing most ways. She probably didn’t need to be driving that much, and it was a lot for me to get out there and it might be less to just have dad conveniently located in the same house as the rest of the family. I thought Dad’s life would be better–I don’t think I could go so far as to say happier–if he came back home to live with us. 

Could we just take Dad out of the facility whenever we wanted? It turned out the answer was mostly yes. I remember some light pushback related to the therapists thinking that in another week or two Dad might be able to stand with the assistance of only one, but when I called the woman I’d first talked to when considering the facility, the woman I knew had recently lost her own mom, she told me there’s no place like home. It was decided. We would bring dad home in two days, on Thursday, September 5, 2024. 

1988 Winamac High School Basketball team. Coach Mike Miller and Martin Torgerson
The 1988 Winamac, Indiana High School Basketball Team. That’s my dad Martin Torgerson on the far left (as usual not looking at the camera) and I’m #10